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Post by stuffcoachessay on Aug 21, 2018 11:33:22 GMT -6
Getting the last minute text/call to tell me "I can't come" still fries me.
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Post by coachcb on Aug 21, 2018 11:59:33 GMT -6
Night before our first practice, the HC hands out a sheet detailing the team rules. Highlighted, bolded and underlined if the statement: AN UNEXCUSED ABSENCE RESULTS IN NOT DRESSING FOR THE NEXT GAME. He goes on to explain, in detail, the difference between an unexcused absence and an excused absence. He sites one specific example; "Missing practice to get your hair cut will be UNEXCUSED."
As we're leaving the auditorium after the meeting, a parent walks up to him and states: "Lil Johnny is going to miss the first four practices as we're going on a back-to-school shopping trip out of town tomorrow. I'm letting you know early so that he can play in the first game."
The HC stood his ground but ended up arguing with this woman for nearly fifteen minutes.
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Post by blb on Aug 21, 2018 14:33:03 GMT -6
Night before our first practice, the HC hands out a sheet detailing the team rules. Highlighted, bolded and underlined if the statement: AN UNEXCUSED ABSENCE RESULTS IN NOT DRESSING FOR THE NEXT GAME. He goes on to explain, in detail, the difference between an unexcused absence and an excused absence. He sites one specific example; "Missing practice to get your hair cut will be UNEXCUSED." As we're leaving the auditorium after the meeting, a parent walks up to him and states: "Lil Johnny is going to miss the first four practices as we're going on a back-to-school shopping trip out of town tomorrow. I'm letting you know early so that he can play in the first game." The HC stood his ground but ended up arguing with this woman for nearly fifteen minutes.
That's why I had our Parents' Meeting in June, last week that school was in session before summer.
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Post by coachcb on Aug 21, 2018 15:40:05 GMT -6
Night before our first practice, the HC hands out a sheet detailing the team rules. Highlighted, bolded and underlined if the statement: AN UNEXCUSED ABSENCE RESULTS IN NOT DRESSING FOR THE NEXT GAME. He goes on to explain, in detail, the difference between an unexcused absence and an excused absence. He sites one specific example; "Missing practice to get your hair cut will be UNEXCUSED." As we're leaving the auditorium after the meeting, a parent walks up to him and states: "Lil Johnny is going to miss the first four practices as we're going on a back-to-school shopping trip out of town tomorrow. I'm letting you know early so that he can play in the first game." The HC stood his ground but ended up arguing with this woman for nearly fifteen minutes.
That's why I had our Parents' Meeting in June, last week that school was in session before summer.
We would have preferred to have our meeting earlier but the AD wanted to do all fall sports at once, right before the season started. However, the parents did receive several letters throughout the spring and summer stating when practice would begin and what the expectations were for attendance. The same letter and information was posted on social media every other week throughout the season. In all reality, it wouldn't have mattered when we held the meeting with regards to this woman's attitude. She would've scheduled the shopping trip for the same time and expected special treatment. She figured that the kid was "owed" a few days off because he went to camp and lifted during the summer. She's dropped it for now but I imagine she'll be in rare form after her kid doesn't play in either of next week's games (JV or varsity). |
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Post by blb on Aug 21, 2018 15:50:57 GMT -6
That's why I had our Parents' Meeting in June, last week that school was in session before summer.
We would have preferred to have our meeting earlier but the AD wanted to do all fall sports at once, right before the season started. However, the parents did receive several letters throughout the spring and summer stating when practice would begin and what the expectations were for attendance. The same letter and information was posted on social media every other week throughout the season. In all reality, it wouldn't have mattered when we held the meeting with regards to this woman's attitude. She would've scheduled the shopping trip for the same time and expected special treatment. She figured that the kid was "owed" a few days off because he went to camp and lifted during the summer. She's dropped it for now but I imagine she'll be in rare form after her kid doesn't play in either of next week's games (JV or varsity).
I had our Football Parents' Meeting in June so as to avoid conflicts - or be able to tell parents such as you describe they were their fault for not being there.
ADs always had a Fall Sports Meeting after practice had started, which was too late and sparsely attended anyway.
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Post by coachcb on Aug 22, 2018 6:58:19 GMT -6
We would have preferred to have our meeting earlier but the AD wanted to do all fall sports at once, right before the season started. However, the parents did receive several letters throughout the spring and summer stating when practice would begin and what the expectations were for attendance. The same letter and information was posted on social media every other week throughout the season. In all reality, it wouldn't have mattered when we held the meeting with regards to this woman's attitude. She would've scheduled the shopping trip for the same time and expected special treatment. She figured that the kid was "owed" a few days off because he went to camp and lifted during the summer. She's dropped it for now but I imagine she'll be in rare form after her kid doesn't play in either of next week's games (JV or varsity).
I had our Football Parents' Meeting in June so as to avoid conflicts - or be able to tell parents such as you describe they were their fault for not being there.
ADs always had a Fall Sports Meeting after practice had started, which was too late and sparsely attended anyway.
We'll have to look into that for next season. |
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Post by klaby on Aug 22, 2018 8:30:12 GMT -6
Devils advocate here....you have your meeting the day before practice 1. Mom may have scheduled the out of town shopping way before that. So piss poor planing on your part constitutes an emergency on mine? If parents spent money to go out of town to shop or whatever with say grandpa or grandma 2 months ago, and then you meet the day before and say "sorry i know you acted like a responsible adult and planed your trip, but now your kid will not play because I waited til the last minute to tell my team rules". I can see it from a parent prospective. You failed to properly plan your meeting, now you are asking me to change my plans last minute...just saying I think you need to plan better, get the info out before summer so parents can adjust accordingly.....these kids arent paid athletes, and they dont make their own life decisions, mom and dad do. If you want parent support, then you have to communicate better than this. what if you had a trip planned and your AD says sorry but I decided you have to be at this mandatory meeting tomorrow or you cant coach this season. You would be pissed, especially if that trip cost you money...
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Post by coachcb on Aug 22, 2018 15:37:15 GMT -6
Devils advocate here....you have your meeting the day before practice 1. Mom may have scheduled the out of town shopping way before that. So piss poor planing on your part constitutes an emergency on mine? If parents spent money to go out of town to shop or whatever with say grandpa or grandma 2 months ago, and then you meet the day before and say "sorry i know you acted like a responsible adult and planed your trip, but now your kid will not play because I waited til the last minute to tell my team rules". I can see it from a parent prospective. You failed to properly plan your meeting, now you are asking me to change my plans last minute...just saying I think you need to plan better, get the info out before summer so parents can adjust accordingly.....these kids arent paid athletes, and they dont make their own life decisions, mom and dad do. If you want parent support, then you have to communicate better than this. what if you had a trip planned and your AD says sorry but I decided you have to be at this mandatory meeting tomorrow or you cant coach this season. You would be pissed, especially if that trip cost you money... Lol.. Reread what I posted. This woman received three different letters in the mail; one in the middle of the spring, one on the last week of school and one in the middle of the summer. This letter detailed all of the program's policies. It was also posted repeatedly on Facebook and Twitter AND reiterated during the kids at our July camp. This year, the AD scheduled all of the fall sport meetings right before practice but, this next year, we'll run a separate meeting at the beginning of the summer. At the end of the day, this parent and the player received all of the information on multiple occasions over the space of nearly six months. And, let's be honest; any kid or parent that were truly invested in the program wouldn't miss four practices so that they could take an extended weekend shopping. |
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Post by klaby on Aug 23, 2018 6:46:26 GMT -6
Coach your missing the point, you can send all the letters you want. Nobody reads them. If you wait until the last minute to communicate face to face in person with your parents, you will fail to win their support. You can rationalize it all you want, bottom line is without parent support you can be Bill Belichek in the X's and O's and you will fail. Nobody on your school board gives a tinker's damn what you say, or what your rules are, but they sure as hell care about pissed off parents. Pissed off parents vote, pissed off parents go to the press, pissed off parents hire attorneys. Pissed off coach's just get fired. The kid is just that the Kid. The parent controls the decisions of the kid. Your program, do what you want, but you aint coaching the Green Bay Packers....your coaching someone else's kid. And that someone else can get really pissed if they think you are screwing their kid....just saying
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Post by coachcb on Aug 23, 2018 7:01:41 GMT -6
Coach your missing the point, you can send all the letters you want. Nobody reads them. If you wait until the last minute to communicate face to face in person with your parents, you will fail to win their support. You can rationalize it all you want, bottom line is without parent support you can be Bill Belichek in the X's and O's and you will fail. Nobody on your school board gives a tinker's damn what you say, or what your rules are, but they sure as hell care about pissed off parents. Pissed off parents vote, pissed off parents go to the press, pissed off parents hire attorneys. Pissed off coach's just get fired. The kid is just that the Kid. The parent controls the decisions of the kid. Your program, do what you want, but you aint coaching the Green Bay Packers....your coaching someone else's kid. And that someone else can get really pissed if they think you are screwing their kid....just saying No, they're missing the point if they don't read the pertinent information that's sent to them repeatedly. If they can't be an adult and read the ONE of the three letters sent to them then that is their problem. And, you're also assuming that parents actually show up to PARENT meetings; ours don't. And, our school board doesn't care about angry parents as long as we can show that we've done our due-diligence. |
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Post by PIGSKIN11 on Sept 3, 2018 11:31:27 GMT -6
Our calendar is posted by January 1 every year - no excuses...
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