Spread 'em out
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"It's not the load that breaks you down, but how you carry it." -Lou Holtz
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Post by Spread 'em out on Mar 20, 2017 11:43:42 GMT -6
I so badly want to burn a bridge with where I'm at now: -Unsupportive admin -Bipolar head coach -Massively unhappy former pro player who takes his anger out on kids -Insanely inefficient hours -Causing us to extra duty with zero extra pay -Openly condescending to me because I'm young -Kids really don't work hard at all, only hear from parents when they're unhappy about playing time -Being lied to about what position I'd coach -Spending hours gameplanning but never teaching our kids how to block or tackle -Always blaming others for problems, never taking accountability for things ourselves. Holy {censored} I need to resign....even writing this makes me realize it. But I'm young and don't have a super experienced resume yet, so can't afford to burn a bridge anywhere. I resigned from my first coaching job, when I was 22, after 1 year for similar reasons, although I had others that were more personal than professional. I see nothing wrong with wanting to find a place where you are significantly more valued and are given the opportunity to learn. Not sure about your situation but one of my biggest problems was that even on the incredibly small staff, there were 3 of us, I was left out of meetings for game planning every week. If I were to ask the HC a question about why we did things a certain way (note, I never questioned whether he was right or wrong, merely the reasoning) his response was never more than "because I said so." Part of being a young coach is knowing that you need to learn and improve. If you are not given the opportunity to do that then it's probably best to move on. Even if you don't like the coach or school, I would advise staying very respectful in your resignation; the next coach you interview with will probably contact the last one and ask about you.
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Post by throwthedeepball on Mar 20, 2017 13:14:42 GMT -6
I so badly want to burn a bridge with where I'm at now: -Unsupportive admin -Bipolar head coach -Massively unhappy former pro player who takes his anger out on kids -Insanely inefficient hours -Causing us to extra duty with zero extra pay -Openly condescending to me because I'm young -Kids really don't work hard at all, only hear from parents when they're unhappy about playing time -Being lied to about what position I'd coach -Spending hours gameplanning but never teaching our kids how to block or tackle -Always blaming others for problems, never taking accountability for things ourselves. Holy {censored} I need to resign....even writing this makes me realize it. But I'm young and don't have a super experienced resume yet, so can't afford to burn a bridge anywhere. holy crap everything you said (except admin and the pro player part) is the same as my situation. it's always better to know others are in similar situations to you. good luck to you!
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Post by fshamrock on Mar 23, 2017 13:54:03 GMT -6
this is all hearsay but the rumor mill says that the dude who wrote the letter was getting railroaded apparently some administrator found out that two staff members were having an affair with each other, this administrator wanted to seek some punitive action, but the people above her shut it down in the name of keeping things quiet so they fired her, she turned around the sued the district....this football coach apparently was vocally supportive of her after she was placed on leave in the community, so they started railroading him
all of that might be way off...but that's the gist
typical small town hogwash
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Post by 3rdandlong on Mar 23, 2017 22:14:51 GMT -6
prove it I even kept some of it generic with the last paragraph "other things I have been uncomfortable with" because I was focusing mostly on how the academic standards as a whole are severely lacking not just in our program, but in the school in general. When the principal pulled me in to speak with me, I pointed out all the other stuff that I didn't put into my letter. www.dropbox.com/s/uoi4l1fnq4kmp1h/Copy%20of%20LOR.pdf?dl=0Sheer curiosity. Did you ever sit and talk with the head coach about the things that werE bothering you. I ask because you're letter looks like one an administrator received about me from an assistant coach one year. I couldn't believe some of the stuff he said in the letter when I read it. He was unhappy and he said things such as me never taking his input. However, he would show up right when practice started, left as soon as it ended, and consistently missed coaching meetings. Never once did he ever seem unhappy. As a matter of fact, he seemed to appreciate me giving him so much time. I was also very transparent and let him know that while Insppreciated the time he gave that he wasn't going to have more input unless he started to put in some more time. Now I'm a guy who is constantly reflecting and I'm the first to admit when I'm in the wrong so I wanted to have a meeting with the guy who wrote the letter. I called him at least 3 times and he never got back to me.
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Post by cqmiller on Mar 24, 2017 9:22:22 GMT -6
3rdandlongSure did... When the OC before me left for the same reasons, we talked about it. Won a state title despite the chaos 2 years ago because we were LOADED, but it was one of the worst seasons ever before we actually won it. Sat down with him in November and said, "here are the things that have to change if I'm gonna stay on board...". He told me they were gonna change and they didn't. Still had meetings without me there about the offense, still had teachers in the school telling me the things they have heard them say when I'm not around, and all the other stuff continued, so I took a job with a guy at a rebuild that I know we will win less games, but it will be better for me and my family. I'll actually look forward to going to work again! We've had 2 full offensive staff meetings at my new place and EVERY offensive coach already knows and has bought into the offense more than anybody did on the old staff. Gonna be a lot more fun.
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Post by 3rdandlong on Mar 24, 2017 10:21:50 GMT -6
Glad you're at a better place! At the HS level, it's much better to be with a cohesive staff and lose than a divided staff and win.
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Post by mariner42 on Mar 24, 2017 10:32:30 GMT -6
I so badly want to burn a bridge with where I'm at now: -Unsupportive admin -Bipolar head coach -Massively unhappy former pro player who takes his anger out on kids -Insanely inefficient hours -Causing us to extra duty with zero extra pay -Openly condescending to me because I'm young -Kids really don't work hard at all, only hear from parents when they're unhappy about playing time -Being lied to about what position I'd coach -Spending hours gameplanning but never teaching our kids how to block or tackle -Always blaming others for problems, never taking accountability for things ourselves. Holy {censored} I need to resign....even writing this makes me realize it. But I'm young and don't have a super experienced resume yet, so can't afford to burn a bridge anywhere. Not worth it to be unhappy on the level you're describing. You'll get another job, you won't get a year of your life back.
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Post by fantom on Mar 24, 2017 11:59:35 GMT -6
I so badly want to burn a bridge with where I'm at now: -Unsupportive admin -Bipolar head coach -Massively unhappy former pro player who takes his anger out on kids -Insanely inefficient hours -Causing us to extra duty with zero extra pay -Openly condescending to me because I'm young -Kids really don't work hard at all, only hear from parents when they're unhappy about playing time -Being lied to about what position I'd coach -Spending hours gameplanning but never teaching our kids how to block or tackle -Always blaming others for problems, never taking accountability for things ourselves. Holy {censored} I need to resign....even writing this makes me realize it. But I'm young and don't have a super experienced resume yet, so can't afford to burn a bridge anywhere. Not worth it to be unhappy on the level you're describing. You'll get another job, you won't get a year of your life back. Some learning experiences teach you how to do things. Some teach you how NOT to do them.
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