No desire to be a HC?

For what it's worth, I'm relatively new to coaching, I had aspirations to be HC at high school some day but the more I learn (especially from this board) the more I feel coordinator position is more so for me, mainly because I have a "natural" knack and interest in strategy long before football. In other words, not so much interested anymore

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No desire to ever be a HC. Now I'm also in a position where my best friend since we were 4 is the HC and we have been coaching together since 2005. I'm the OL and DC with free reign on defense and make our half time adjustments on O as well. Also call lots of plays on game day, HC is the main shot caller but will run whatever a couple other guys call during the game. Our staff for the most part has also been together this whole time as well so everyone knows their role.

So basically I have a lot of juice in my current position without the added craziness of being a HC. So again no I have no desire to ever be a HC.

Typing this I relaize I don't know if I could be an assistant for any other HC, just have to much power now and I don't know if I could be just a regular assistant anymore.

Seems like you have it made. It's like being HC without the title and all the unnecessary drama lol. Pretty sure 99% of us don't coach with someone we've known since we were 4! All I can say is Enjoy it!        

I'm a head coach but would have no problem moving to a coordinator or even position coach one day.

There is nothing wrong with your view at all. In fact as an OL/DC you probably have more impact on game night than the HC often does.

I am in a similar position with my HC. He was an assistant when I played, and the rest of the guys on staff all played for him. It is just a great situation.  I don't think I would ever want to be the header. He really trusts us, and lets us coach. If I was the header I would micro mange. I am at a small school so I get to do a ton, and I love it. Also being so tight not we can say what we think. Lots of F bombs, but nobody walks away with their feelings hurt. So to sum up I am very happy being a minion at the high school level. 

Ditto. Every taste I've gotten has made me just that much more eager.

I used to feel the same way. My first year I was just coach OL/DL and thats all I wanted to do. I then was asked to be HC for the JV. I couldnt get enough of it.. Im big on things like creating the team culture so that may have been it for me

I've been a head coach going into my 26th year of 35 years of coaching. Not sure if I could be an assistant anymore. It does make me feel like a "bad person" sometimes to say that but I wouldn't want to keep biting my tongue when I see some things I've already learned ignored. Maybe with the right person as a head, though. I don't mind my head on the block as the head, but I'm certainly not a "glory hound" either.

It is great to be an assistant for a HC that you are on the same page with and gives you some responsibility.

It is an awful experience to work for a HC that you are not on the same page with or does not delegate anything to you.

It is at that point that some assistants start to consider the HC position when they really feel they can do better and make a positive difference.

I don't talk to a lot of head coaches that seem like happy/contented guys, now that might be in part due to the fact that they are the type of "never satisfied" dudes from the beginning which is why they got as far as they did, but I think they are just stressed out. I once heard at a corporate management thing that employees become stressed and work satisfaction drops when they are held accountable for results that are beyond their control. As a HC you think you are gaining more control over the program and that makes you feel good, but the flip-side is that you are now held responsible for more outcomes over which you have very little control.

couple of football players get caught smoking weed in the grocery store parking lot - No discipline in your football program

player fails a class - why aren't you keeping up with these kids academically?

other school in town wins a title- why aren't we more like them?

three starters tear ACL's - what are we doing to prevent injury?

...it goes on forever

The why for me.... Bc its what I was called to do I believe.  Nothing wrong with feeling called to be a lifetime asst.  I enjoy being the guy.  Some of it I hate yes, but mostly I love the grind.  And as far as all of the off field stuff, I deligate some of that stuff.  For instance, at my last job, I had an asst that was super organized and prolly woulda been an accountant if it was more exciting.  He did all my collections for me.  He loved it.  I knew he would do it correctly and I cut him breaks in other areas bc he did it.  You dont have to do everything yourself as HC.

I have been an HC and it left a bad taste in my mouth.

1. I don't like being reasonable for a staff. I like to think I am a fair, objective guy that gives assistants a voice. But, there have been far too many times where I have deal with poor assistants or issues they have caused. I've done my best to educate them thoroughly on what we do and how to teach it but there always seems to be SNAFUs. For example, we basically had to scrap a simple, effective three step game one year because our QB and WR coaches couldn't get the job done, even after going through the technique and drills repeatedly. Some of this was due to inexperience but most of it was caused by poor attitudes. "No, a WR doesn't juke three times before running a slant route.."

2. The overall logistical side of things drove me insane. Our AD expected us to basically do everything but provide a bus. Travel plans, getting the kids fed, handling equipment issues, etc..etc..Finding someone reliable to take on some of this load was difficult and I ended up doing it myself. Little things pile up... We were on the road and I had called in an order to a Subway along the way for turkey and ham subs. It was a simple order: 10 ham subs, 10 turkey subs, 20 bags of chips and provide us with mayo and mustard packets. I called them in the day before and then double checked before we headed out. I told them when we'd be in to get them and but they hadn't even started the order. So.. We showed up for the game 15 minutes before kick-off because we had to wait for them to get it done.

3. Never forget that EVERYTHING falls your shoulders. And I do mean everything. You will be putting out fires consistently. They're usually small fires but they add up quickly. My situation was nothing out of the ordinary and serious issues rarely arose but dealing with three to four minor issues related to football on top of teaching and everything else gets old.

This is a good description that many young or inexperienced coaches don't understand. When I was in my early/mid 20's I applied for the head job at a few schools. Although at the time i thought i was ready...looking back I definitely wasn't, especially the non x and o's part. Our new HC here is football 24/7. I've seen first hand, that if you want to be successful, it really is a 52 week a year job. At this point in my life I just don't want to do that right now. I'm already a head baseball coach, doing both would be too much at this point.