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Post by coachtua on Apr 30, 2015 2:21:49 GMT -6
A high school team mate of mine is a coach at a military prep high school. He had a young man on his team this past season that just quit coming to school and practice one day, completely checked himself out of school. So my buddy calls the kids dad to see whats up. The dad tells him the situation. Right now the kid receives a living allowance of $4,000/month from a trust his grandparents set up for him. When he turns 18 it increases to $10,000/month. No stipulations. WTF...
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Post by silkyice on Apr 30, 2015 8:34:45 GMT -6
A high school team mate of mine is a coach at a military prep high school. He had a young man on his team this past season that just quit coming to school and practice one day, completely checked himself out of school. So my buddy calls the kids dad to see whats up. The dad tells him the situation. Right now the kid receives a living allowance of $4,000/month from a trust his grandparents set up for him. When he turns 18 it increases to $10,000/month. No stipulations. WTF... That should turn out well.
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Post by coachphillip on Apr 30, 2015 10:41:57 GMT -6
I have a suspicion that I was adopted. Where is this kid from and what are his grandparents' last names?
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Post by raymul313 on May 1, 2015 10:08:13 GMT -6
I mean if I was getting $4,000/month at 18 idk if I'm coming to practice either. Let's just hope his parents have taught him the value of a dollar because at 18 I'm sure he and friends are making it rain in the club.
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Post by fantom on May 1, 2015 14:19:17 GMT -6
A high school team mate of mine is a coach at a military prep high school. He had a young man on his team this past season that just quit coming to school and practice one day, completely checked himself out of school. So my buddy calls the kids dad to see whats up. The dad tells him the situation. Right now the kid receives a living allowance of $4,000/month from a trust his grandparents set up for him. When he turns 18 it increases to $10,000/month. No stipulations. WTF... I have to say that if I was that kid I'm not sure that military school would be for me either.
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2015 14:22:44 GMT -6
my question is where are the parents? They let him do that. If he is 18 nothing they can do, obviously. Then again there are reasons the parents put him in the military school. To have the school do what they didn't have the stomach for.
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Post by mhcoach on May 2, 2015 11:50:52 GMT -6
A few years back I was coaching at a Prep school. One of our coaches worked the dorms as an RA. He was walking through the Dorms & he spies on of the Chinese Students counting out 10k in $100 bills. So he stops & asks the boy what he is doing. He tells him he is counting his monthly allowance & asks if it will be enough. Our Coach explains to the boy he can't leave money like that exposed or it will get stolen. The boy looks at the coach as if he is crazy.
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Post by silkyice on May 2, 2015 13:00:30 GMT -6
A few years back I was coaching at a Prep school. One of our coaches worked the dorms as an RA. He was walking through the Dorms & he spies on of the Chinese Students counting out 10k in $100 bills. So he stops & asks the boy what he is doing. He tells him he is counting his monthly allowance & asks if it will be enough. Our Coach explains to the boy he can't leave money like that exposed or it will get stolen. The boy looks at the coach as if he is crazy. Joe My answer would be that "it is enough, but don't forget the $2000 RA monthly fee. And I will go ahead and collect that now."
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Post by mhcoach on May 2, 2015 14:55:02 GMT -6
Silky
He actually was worried because the boy just had no idea of the value of money, or American culture. That school had a large % of exchange students that lived in the dorms. Many were from China, as well as Brazil, & the Middle East.
We had an Offensive Guard who came from Turkey. Great kid, but I have to tell you some of the funniest experiences I have ever had coaching revolved around him. We had to bail him out when he was arrested by customs for trying to bring in sausage from Turkey.
We had a couple of the Chinese exchange students try out, until we got into pads. The Brazilian kid started out as a kicker & wound up being a DB, he was actually pretty tough.
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Post by Defcord on May 4, 2015 8:13:50 GMT -6
Hard to tell a kid that he needs to learn to work hard when he actually doesn't. 10,000 a month is more than most of us will ever make. I would quit my job right now if I was told I would be getting that amount of money.
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Post by larrymoe on May 5, 2015 9:33:10 GMT -6
Hard to tell a kid that he needs to learn to work hard when he actually doesn't. 10,000 a month is more than most of us will ever make. I would quit my job right now if I was told I would be getting that amount of money. $10k a month would be 7500 more a month than I make now after taxes.
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Post by freezeoption on May 7, 2015 6:40:18 GMT -6
heck, 4000 a month is twice my salary, the kid isn't coming back, but he will probably have a rough life down the road, those that had to work for what they got will usually make the better decisions, i can't believe the grandparents were that stupid, if you don't have to work for it then you don't value it
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Post by coachtua on May 8, 2015 1:30:09 GMT -6
UPDATE...He decided to try to get his GED. He called the admissions office asking for a copy of his transcripts so he knew what he needed to complete.
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Post by raymul313 on May 8, 2015 5:52:29 GMT -6
That's good for him that he's at least finishing high school. I hope he does something great in the future.
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Post by silkyice on May 8, 2015 6:16:26 GMT -6
UPDATE...He decided to try to get his GED. He called the admissions office asking for a copy of his transcripts so he knew what he needed to complete. I know someone who can help tutor him for the GED. I work at a reasonable price, just $2000. That is throw away money for him.
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Post by Chris Clement on May 9, 2015 15:39:30 GMT -6
UPDATE...He decided to try to get his GED. He called the admissions office asking for a copy of his transcripts so he knew what he needed to complete. Why bother? Well invested (by someone else, presumably) he can live out his days knee-deep in weed and Doritos in a basement apartment somewhere.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2015 7:38:14 GMT -6
I don't blame the kid. I don't blame the Grandparents. Where the bleep were his parents? They knew this was coming, and they sat on their hands for 18 years.
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Post by fantom on May 10, 2015 8:43:11 GMT -6
I don't blame the kid. I don't blame the Grandparents. Where the bleep were his parents? They knew this was coming, and they sat on their hands for 18 years. What exactly are we blaming the parents for? He doesn't want to go to military school? I wouldn't either.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2015 10:20:27 GMT -6
I don't blame the kid. I don't blame the Grandparents. Where the bleep were his parents? They knew this was coming, and they sat on their hands for 18 years. What exactly are we blaming the parents for? He doesn't want to go to military school? I wouldn't either. He made the decision based on the way he was raised. The decision to not go to military school is just a symptom.
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Post by fantom on May 10, 2015 10:27:00 GMT -6
What exactly are we blaming the parents for? He doesn't want to go to military school? I wouldn't either. He made the decision based on the way he was raised. The decision to not go to military school is just a symptom. A symptom of what? All that we know about the kid and his family is that he has a lot of money and quit military school. There is no other information so how can we conclude what kind of kid he is and what kind of upbringing he's had?
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2015 10:44:29 GMT -6
He made the decision based on the way he was raised. The decision to not go to military school is just a symptom. A symptom of what? All that we know about the kid and his family is that he has a lot of money and quit military school. There is no other information so how can we conclude what kind of kid he is and what kind of upbringing he's had? Lack of parenting. And I can get there from the decision the kid has made. From the "need" of military school, its not the first terrible decision he had made. From that I can get he had a lot of lee way and nobody really holding accountable all the way to now. Why that is? I have no idea. His parents may work demanding jobs, or whatever. And I will allow that maybe he does have a solid upbringing, knows the value of a dollar, how to handle money, and gave his parents solid reasoning for doing what he is doing. Most kids even at eighteen cannot do that. They have no clue.
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Post by fantom on May 10, 2015 10:55:32 GMT -6
A symptom of what? All that we know about the kid and his family is that he has a lot of money and quit military school. There is no other information so how can we conclude what kind of kid he is and what kind of upbringing he's had? Lack of parenting. And I can get there from the decision the kid has made. From the "need" of military school, its not the first terrible decision he had made. From that I can get he had a lot of lee way and nobody really holding accountable all the way to now. Why that is? I have no idea. His parents may work demanding jobs, or whatever. And I will allow that maybe he does have a solid upbringing, knows the value of a dollar, how to handle money, and gave his parents solid reasoning for doing what he is doing. Most kids even at eighteen cannot do that. They have no clue.
What makes it a terrible decision?
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2015 11:26:47 GMT -6
lack of education, lack of understanding the importance of education. From that lack of understanding of hard work, finishing the process of growing up, doing the senior prom thing and the like. But the chances are he will be allowed live in the basement per se. So maybe I am wrong, and in fact I probably am.
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Post by fantom on May 10, 2015 12:00:50 GMT -6
lack of education, lack of understanding the importance of education. From that lack of understanding of hard work, finishing the process of growing up, doing the senior prom thing and the like. But the chances are he will be allowed live in the basement per se. So maybe I am wrong, and in fact I probably am. With $10,000 a month he won't need to live in the basement. Not liking school makes him a bad kid? A lot of kids don't like school. Hell, a lot of adults don't like school. In this forum I've read dozens, maybe hundreds, of posts from guys who say that they only teach so that they can coach. Lack of interest in education? He said that he was going to get a GED. Not caring about going to prom is a character flaw? How do we know that he doesn't care about hard work? Maybe he works his ass off-at motorcycle maintenance or computers or something else. The point is that there are a lot of assumptions here. We're assuming that the kid is a bad kid and that the parents are bad parents without any real evidence. Hey, I don't know anything about the kid. For all I know he may be a meth tweaker. Or not. We don't know.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2015 12:23:18 GMT -6
lack of education, lack of understanding the importance of education. From that lack of understanding of hard work, finishing the process of growing up, doing the senior prom thing and the like. But the chances are he will be allowed live in the basement per se. So maybe I am wrong, and in fact I probably am. With $10,000 a month he won't need to live in the basement. Not liking school makes him a bad kid? A lot of kids don't like school. Hell, a lot of adults don't like school. In this forum I've read dozens, maybe hundreds, of posts from guys who say that they only teach so that they can coach. Lack of interest in education? He said that he was going to get a GED. Not caring about going to prom is a character flaw? How do we know that he doesn't care about hard work? Maybe he works his ass off-at motorcycle maintenance or computers or something else. The point is that there are a lot of assumptions here. We're assuming that the kid is a bad kid and that the parents are bad parents without any real evidence. Hey, I don't know anything about the kid. For all I know he may be a meth tweaker. Or not. We don't know. just because he doesn't have to, doesn't me he wont. Why would he pay rent when he can pay nothing? At the same time why put the kid in military school when you know he is going to do what he did? I didn't like school, but not the same thing as not needing it. If we are waiting for hard evidence before making a judgement or having a conversation, then shut down social media. I am not in favor of that by any stretch. I do not have a problem with the kid. The kid is being a kid. It is the structure he has lived in that I question. And the foundation of that is the parenting, the instruction that kid has received.
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Post by fantom on May 10, 2015 12:24:51 GMT -6
With $10,000 a month he won't need to live in the basement. Not liking school makes him a bad kid? A lot of kids don't like school. Hell, a lot of adults don't like school. In this forum I've read dozens, maybe hundreds, of posts from guys who say that they only teach so that they can coach. Lack of interest in education? He said that he was going to get a GED. Not caring about going to prom is a character flaw? How do we know that he doesn't care about hard work? Maybe he works his ass off-at motorcycle maintenance or computers or something else. The point is that there are a lot of assumptions here. We're assuming that the kid is a bad kid and that the parents are bad parents without any real evidence. Hey, I don't know anything about the kid. For all I know he may be a meth tweaker. Or not. We don't know. just because he doesn't have to, doesn't me he wont. Why would he pay rent when he can pay nothing? At the same time why put the kid in military school when you know he is going to do what he did? I didn't like school, but not the same thing as not needing it.
He doesn't need it.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2015 12:54:56 GMT -6
just because he doesn't have to, doesn't me he wont. Why would he pay rent when he can pay nothing? At the same time why put the kid in military school when you know he is going to do what he did? I didn't like school, but not the same thing as not needing it.
He doesn't need it. That is an interesting assumption.
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Post by fantom on May 10, 2015 13:08:26 GMT -6
That is an interesting assumption. It's not an assumption. The vast majority of kids go to school to get a diploma so that they can get a job and earn a living. He doesn't need to earn a living.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2015 13:17:11 GMT -6
That is an interesting assumption. It's not an assumption. The vast majority of kids go to school to get a diploma so that they can get a job and earn a living. He doesn't need to earn a living. fine.
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Post by dubber on May 12, 2015 17:48:54 GMT -6
That estate planning attorney gave some real shoddy advice to the GP's
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