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Post by bluedevil4 on Oct 18, 2014 9:54:08 GMT -6
1. He was wasted
2. His kid had to step in
It has nothing to do with you, it has everything to do with him and his own personal problems. His kid stepping in tells me this isn't the first time he has done this, so it probably wasn't worth the efforts of the other staff to step in. We've had parents like this before do this in the parking lot as we were going to the bus, with all the admins right there. Everyone usually just ignores them until they get physical, but it's never gotten to that point.
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Post by dubber on Oct 18, 2014 11:02:44 GMT -6
Make sure he is barred from all future athletic events, and forgive your admin and move on.
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Post by groundchuck on Oct 18, 2014 11:15:34 GMT -6
Years ago at a different school I had a dad challenge me to a fist fight during the game while his son was on the field. He had come down out of the stands and was screaming at me so loud I had to turn around. When I turned I saw he was standing right by the AD who did nothing. Next chance I had after the game I asked the AD how he would handle it. He said "handle what?" He didn't think that threatening to kick my ass or being intoxicated at a high school game was wrong.
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Post by jlenwood on Oct 18, 2014 13:34:25 GMT -6
Almost had it all crash down on me last night. At no point did my HC, an administrator, any other parents... anyone try to get this guy away from the area. Sorry, but if this happened to me and the HC stood there and did nothing, I would have a problem with that. All we ever hear is to keep our cool and not say stuff to officials, or players, or other coaches or whatever, but if some belligerent a$$-bag can get on the field after a game and confront a coach-you are supposed to handle that yourself?! I would tell the AD to handle this individual and any future contact with your athletics, or I would tell him not to count on me being there. I see this as a drunken jerk psychically threatening me, so either assure the coaching staff it wont happen again, or don't be surprised when it becomes open season on coaches as other jack a$$es see this behavior and think they can get away with it. We have some former military personnel on our staff, so I can see this getting ugly if it happened to one of us. |
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Post by carookie on Oct 18, 2014 20:32:00 GMT -6
I have had more instances of parents coming at coaches this year then in all my other years combined. Luckily for me, it has been at other coaches, I would probably just laugh at them and point out they are threatening a HS football coach. Some people take this stuff way too seriously.
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Post by rock85 on Oct 19, 2014 5:59:03 GMT -6
I am a first-year AD after spending 23 years as an assistant coach at a different school. I know one of my very top goals is to support my coaches.....and I'll stand on the sideline near (not necessarily with) the coaching staff until everything is cleaned up and they are ready to go to the locker room or bus. No way would I ever allow a parent to get that close to a coach, especially with him in front of his team. Guy had to realize he humiliated his kid....I'd make sure he watched his last game of the season if it were up to me after a scene like that.
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Post by joelee on Oct 20, 2014 8:58:14 GMT -6
I once had a parent come onto the field after a game and put his hands on one of my coaches. The AD called me to his office with the parent so we could talk it out! I no longer work for that particular AD.
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Post by gibbs72 on Oct 21, 2014 10:48:39 GMT -6
I once had a parent come onto the field after a game and put his hands on one of my coaches. The AD called me to his office with the parent so we could talk it out! I no longer work for that particular AD. Wow! I mean, really. . . . . wow. |
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Post by dytmook on Oct 21, 2014 11:28:48 GMT -6
We had a coach have this happen last year. Well the guy was yelling from the stands. Not really sure what happened but it was a big deal with him that our AD did nothing. It was an away game so it was the home team's responsibility. It was awkward.
This year we had a chain guy go berserk on our sideline and basically try to fight our entire sideline. The refs did a poor job handling it, security and the AD basically left the guy out on the field with the kids. It was so bad I ran down from the booth hopped out of the stands and across the other teams side line in order to ensure there was someone between the kids and the guy. They finally get rid of him, apparently ejected one of our coaches, though no flags were thrown, and play resumed. He literally charged our sideline like 4 times. They then let the guy be out in the parking lot near our entrance as we were exiting like it was no big deal. We got police to escort us out, but still utterly ridiculous.
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Post by newhope on Oct 23, 2014 10:43:44 GMT -6
In most states it is against the law to threaten a school official. Have them arrested. If the admin can't or won't take care of the issue, the police can and I'm pretty sure everyone has police at their games. You'll get fired if you respond, so just have them locked up. No one else will try it after that.
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Post by dytmook on Oct 23, 2014 11:47:54 GMT -6
Yeah police were there and didn't arrest him. The host school didn't seem to be too worried about it and were strictly blaming it on us. The worst thing we did was really get in the way of the chains if that. It didn't help they were setting them in a strange way were they were setting them in one spot them moving them back further. I was in the box so I'm not sure of that.
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Post by bleefb on Oct 24, 2014 0:00:36 GMT -6
I once had a parent come onto the field after a game and put his hands on one of my coaches. The AD called me to his office with the parent so we could talk it out! I no longer work for that particular AD. I had a parent come to my house and threaten me on my front yard. Principal forced me to have a meeting with the parent to "resolve the issue." One of my biggest regrets in life was I didn't call the cops on that SOB that night.  I also stopped coaching for that Principal after that season. |
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Post by gibbs72 on Oct 24, 2014 6:56:04 GMT -6
Those are the kind of moments tazers were made for |
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Post by IronmanFootball on Oct 26, 2014 9:05:24 GMT -6
No one has aggressively confronted me but they all break the rules of our school re sports which include these 2 gems:
1) not addressing refs, coaches, or players during games.
2) not speaking to/with a coach re a complaint for 48 hours after a game.
A dad came up and asked why I didn't give his son a 2nd carry on 2nd and goal, we scored on a run/pass option when QB kept for the TD. I said "that's what the message boards are for" He then asked my DC "what's a message board?"
We've been given a few sideline warnings and a 15 yarder for parents screaming at refs (small fields, close bleachers). I had to tell a dad "just stop talking" this Friday for arguing with ref- best part was of course daddy was WRONG. Ref had right call AND it benefited us. One of the best ref crews we've had all year.
We have plenty of kids walking over to their parents during the game like it's little league or pop warner. It's embarrassing.
They even complained once on our IZ package that I called a pass (we're up 14 with a few seconds left)... the QB chose to pass based on the pre-snap read... I also told the QB before the play "no matter what they show, just hand off or keep" and he chose to do it his way.
And I get a lot of emails subject line says "just some advice" or that start with "I don't agree with many of your decisions" ha!
Parents- gotta love em!
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Post by gibbs72 on Oct 26, 2014 9:10:08 GMT -6
Funny how a lot of school boards/ districts have iron clad rules that coaches have to follow to the letter. . . no questions asked. . . but the established rules for parents/ fan are kind of a gray area that may or may not be enforced. Makes me think of a line from one of my favorite movies "Fletch"
"Well, there we're in kind of a gray area."
"How gray?"
"Charcoal."
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Post by freezeoption on Oct 26, 2014 10:22:49 GMT -6
been there, had had some interesting incidents, i would have those kids stay on the sideline and not go running to mommy or daddy, might be hard but you got to do it or you lose control, nothing ticks me off more than that, control what you can control, you can't control parents but you can control players, this year didn't really have any problems, had a mom on the sidelines taking pictures which is cool had a couple of moms do that, but one time a player tackled on of my players and had him by the neck, my kid started to talk crap and act upset, i said it was over get back in the huddle and get ready for the next play, his mom was taking pictures and kept talking about the tackle and i said it is over your kid needs to focus, she kept going, i said it is over he has to focus no exceptions, i said it loud enough that everyone could hear, kid acted better and she shut up,
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Post by IronmanFootball on Oct 26, 2014 15:54:37 GMT -6
Our principal and AD try their best to keep em back. But our bleachers are 5 inches from our bench  |
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Post by newhope on Oct 27, 2014 8:06:34 GMT -6
"If I catch you talking to your parents or anyone in the stands during the game, you don't play anymore that night." Problem solved.
No matter how close the stands are, why are refs arguing with fans that are in the stands?
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