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Post by nltdiego on Sept 15, 2014 20:43:50 GMT -6
We have lower level kids do this but first time happened at varsity. A two way starter whose parents think he is wrong position quits and says doesn't have passion. Parents complain and say I didn't shake his hand and thank him for his hard work he put to the program. The worse thing is he still sits with football players at lunch like nothing happened.
Is this normal with your school and program?
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Post by fantom on Sept 15, 2014 20:52:18 GMT -6
We have lower level kids do this but first time happened at varsity. A two way starter whose parents think he is wrong position quits and says doesn't have passion. Parents complain and say I didn't shake his hand and thank him for his hard work he put to the program. The worse thing is he still sits with football players at lunch like nothing happened. Is this normal with your school and program? No but there's nothing you can do about it so don't sweat it.
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Post by rsmith627 on Sept 15, 2014 20:54:26 GMT -6
Sometimes you lose a kid. It happens and we move on. Why is him sitting with his friends at lunch an issue though?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2014 21:22:05 GMT -6
It was an issue at the last school I coached at. We won a game to make us 1-4 and that week we had 3 kids quit. Then we had another 3 kids quit/fake season ending injuries over the next 3 weeks. That place had a terrible culture.
As a player and a coach, there's usually at least one or two who've quit during the season every year I've been involved with football. It just happens. They aren't usually starters, though.
I wouldn't worry about him sitting with his friends. He's gone. They're not. Leave them be. The parents could kiss it, though.
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Post by gibbs72 on Sept 16, 2014 7:27:00 GMT -6
Wow! Shake hands and thank a quitter. Unbelievable.
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Post by jlenwood on Sept 16, 2014 7:40:15 GMT -6
Our athletic policy that the school has if you quit a sport during season, you must set out half of the season for the following sport you play. We always allow a kid who isn't "in to it" to get out before the actual season starts, but once it starts you are in it for the long haul.
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Post by coachphillip on Sept 16, 2014 8:28:43 GMT -6
"Thank you for leaving us with a blank spot on the field on both offense and defense. I can't wait to see if all the hard work you put in vs Johnny scrub is going to help him attempt to defend himself this Friday."
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Post by dubber on Sept 16, 2014 9:43:47 GMT -6
We have lower level kids do this but first time happened at varsity. A two way starter whose parents think he is wrong position quits and says doesn't have passion. Parents complain and say I didn't shake his hand and thank him for his hard work he put to the program. The worse thing is he still sits with football players at lunch like nothing happened. Is this normal with your school and program?
The green letters are the problem.
Too bad they are ruining a great experience for their son.
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Post by coachcotner on Sept 17, 2014 7:53:27 GMT -6
Why would you even give a chit what his parents think? He is in the wrong position and doesn't have passion? Oh, how's he doing in his new position? Is he passionate about it? Evidently he didn't work too hard for the program or it wouldn't have been so easy to give up. This post makes me appreciate our kids and parents even more. Our kids "hey, I know you're a linebacker but we need someone to play DE" - Kid "I'll play anywhere coach, I just want on the field." Our parents: I didn't start our team leader, hardest worker, MIKE linebacker in game 1 because he was hurt in the last scrimmage and his replacement played great, while he didn't play very well in the 2nd scrimmage. After the game his mother sent this email "Congrats on a fantastic game last night! What a great way to open the season and celebrate all the hard work and dedication you and the boys have put in for the last 269 days. As a mother and a fan, I am very proud of the team - not only their play, but more importantly in the way they represented the community through their disciplined actions on and off the field." Notice how she complained non-stop about how her son was wronged because he didn't start the game? How she b!tched about he didn't miss a single day of weights for 2 straight years and didn't get to start the first game of is senior year against a bitter rival? The nerve of some parents huh? Her son also played out 7 tech last year...he's been a linebacker his entire life. Again...not a single word from his parents. I don't think our parents even realize how much I appreciate them. That is awesome.
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Post by coachphillip on Sept 17, 2014 8:53:28 GMT -6
I didn't play a scrub who is playing JV as a first year junior. Some parent text me without telling me who she was. I found out the next day. It was this scrub's mom. His mom text me "I didn't pay all this money to watch my son sit on the bench." "I don't know who you are or how you got my number, but I play kids who show up every day and put in work. Your kid is definitely in neither group. By the way, that was a fundraiser your son was supposed to do. Not pay to play. You got conned." I got back "... Thank you. Sorry." Lmao
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Post by WTR on Sept 18, 2014 10:52:19 GMT -6
Our policy is if you quit you cannot go to the next sport until the current season is over. I'm at a small school where we have a lot of kids playing multiple sports.
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Post by coachklee on Sept 18, 2014 19:47:47 GMT -6
Why would you even give a chit what his parents think? He is in the wrong position and doesn't have passion? Oh, how's he doing in his new position? Is he passionate about it? Evidently he didn't work too hard for the program or it wouldn't have been so easy to give up. This post makes me appreciate our kids and parents even more. Our kids "hey, I know you're a linebacker but we need someone to play DE" - Kid "I'll play anywhere coach, I just want on the field." Our parents: I didn't start our team leader, hardest worker, MIKE linebacker in game 1 because he was hurt in the last scrimmage and his replacement played great, while he didn't play very well in the 2nd scrimmage. After the game his mother sent this email "Congrats on a fantastic game last night! What a great way to open the season and celebrate all the hard work and dedication you and the boys have put in for the last 269 days. As a mother and a fan, I am very proud of the team - not only their play, but more importantly in the way they represented the community through their disciplined actions on and off the field." Notice how she complained non-stop about how her son was wronged because he didn't start the game? How she b!tched about he didn't miss a single day of weights for 2 straight years and didn't get to start the first game of is senior year against a bitter rival? The nerve of some parents huh? Her son also played out 7 tech last year...he's been a linebacker his entire life. Again...not a single word from his parents. I don't think our parents even realize how much I appreciate them. Make sure you let them know. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by coachnichols on Sept 23, 2014 18:49:58 GMT -6
We have lower level kids do this but first time happened at varsity. A two way starter whose parents think he is wrong position quits and says doesn't have passion. Parents complain and say I didn't shake his hand and thank him for his hard work he put to the program. The worse thing is he still sits with football players at lunch like nothing happened. Is this normal with your school and program? Sounds like the school I am at now, except most of the parents would care enough to actually talk to the coach and say you should shake his hand. Culture is a hard thing to change I have found...very hard.
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Post by freezeoption on Sept 25, 2014 10:09:36 GMT -6
sorry, i'm not shaking a hand of a quitter, we have had 7 quit this year, 6 from a school we coop with, one was a starter, gave stupid answers, one from my school, again stupid answer, but i figured he may not make it, i also have a couple of injured that i think are faking it, we are a first year program, and when things get tough it is easy for kids to quit, when they have been allowed to do that their whole life, the injured may not have a spot when they come back, one came back yesterday and asked where he would play, i said you've been out 2 weeks, you might not be put in for a while, play scout and if you get it you better make the most of it, because i have had to redo everything the last 2 weeks and your not on the list, you will have to earn it
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Post by motiv on Sept 25, 2014 13:08:11 GMT -6
I've had two kids quit this year. Both told me they wanted to quit during the school day. Both came to me and said they made a mistake before practice that very day. Both have parents that tell them they should be playing different positions. Both are great kids that have less than stellar parents. In both cases I had a talk with them and they both came back on the team. Young kids that make irrational decisions based off of foolish beliefs by their parents should not be blamed. I couldn't give up on them. They are now both starters and have bought into what we believe.
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