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Post by k on Dec 31, 2007 12:35:04 GMT -6
You may very well be right that it should be institutionalized. Right now my attitude is "this is what you need to do and why you need to do it." And then give the kids a chance to get their on their own. When they slip I'm there to help them up and tell them how they need to change their actions and provide them a means to do it.
I guess I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt on their character. Just like I'd give my kids in American History the benefit of the doubt that they understand what the Magna Carta having learned it in last years class I'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt that they've learned character from their parents, teachers, clergy, etc.
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Post by jraybern on Dec 31, 2007 13:16:25 GMT -6
liberalhater..... I saw your post "I hate liberals" and thought of a great character lesson that I learned in college. It was funny....I learned the lesson from two VERY different sources at the same time. Those who have Faith (as I do) would say that God's timing is awesome.
The lesson that I learned was to hate the behavior and not the person who acts a certain way that you disagree with. As a "leberalhater" I assume you are a rightwinged person. That is fine, so am I.
I hate abortion. Not those who get abortions. You will sympathize with those people when you have to face them. I had a good friend who was drugged and raped. She got pregnant from the ordeal. Was considering having an abortion but miscarried the baby. As a result, emotionally she was a wreck. Struggled with anarexia and had to quick school to check into a clinic so should could get some help. If she had had an abortion, I would not have cared any less for her.
I hate homosexuality. Some of my best friends in college were homosexual. I no longer say things like "that is gay" or "you are so gay" because of the influence they had on my life. These people had HUGE hearts and would have done anything for me.
I hate illegal immigration.
The list goes on and on. As a model of good character, PLEASE hate the action and not the person doing it.
The message I got from the church - and this is what I hope all of us can understand - is "hate the sin, not the sinner." Its a simple change that really does make an impact on the way one sees other people. Say "I hate abortion" or "I hate illegal immigration"......but don't say "I hate liberals."
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Post by dlo on Jan 3, 2008 15:39:32 GMT -6
great points rcole. I have a letter that I keep from a lax player of mine. She started the letter with, "you have changed my life more than you will ever know..." That is why I coach. I wouldn't trade a state title for that letter. Wouldn't even think about it. With my football team, my goal is to have former players introduce me to their wife and say, I am a better man and father for knowing Coach. Its that simple.
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Post by coachbdud on Jan 4, 2008 0:26:10 GMT -6
the father SHOULD teach character
but with many of the kids today, there is no father figure, many of the kids on my team have never even met their father, or even know his name. As a coach it is our responsibility to be a father when a child does not have one at home
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