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Post by CS on Aug 29, 2012 19:57:46 GMT -6
Have you guys ever flat out refused to coach a kid who refuses to be coached?
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Post by carookie on Aug 29, 2012 21:39:13 GMT -6
Alright lets hear it, how does this kid refuse to be coached? Does he blatantly disregard your instructions and mouth off in insubordination? Or is he just some sort of space cadet who has never been asked to do anything in his life so he is off in la-la land?
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Post by wvcoach on Aug 29, 2012 22:24:36 GMT -6
If he refuses to be coached, why is he there?
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Post by brophy on Aug 30, 2012 6:34:14 GMT -6
if a player doesn't follow instruction (the game plan / responsibility) how is he getting any playing time?
I've seen guys that who are both mentally and physically limited and (it seems) no matter how many drills you do with them and explain their assignment, they just never build up enough of a competency to warrant EVER seeing the field. Those guys you have to help them orient themselves to a different supporting roles (usually kids out to just be a part of something).
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Post by wingt74 on Aug 30, 2012 6:35:59 GMT -6
How are the grades? Could it be a learning disabillity?
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Post by formrbcbuc on Aug 30, 2012 7:20:22 GMT -6
Like many have brought up, do you know if the player has a cognitive/ processing disability? When dealing with athletes with these sorts of disabilities, you need to really focus on the small victories such as getting them in proper alignment, proper first steps, hitting hard, etc. It can be very frustrating but also rewarding in the end for both sides. Another scenario is that they have an emotional and/ or behavioral disorder (i.e. biploar, schizophrenic, etc.). This can be a very tricky situation as they can be having a good to okay day or a very, very bad day. This is where your ability to create relationships with these athletes is tested; if you have a strong, positive relationship with the athlete things can be workable. Unfortunately, due to to the nature of their disorders they can blow up over what we would consider to be trivial matters and the blowups can turn either really ugly or they can completely shutdown and refuse to be coached. The last generalized group is the kid that refuses to play / be coached and does so without any developmental or psychological issues. Some kids shut down because they feel that they have been improperly positioned, do not have the physical tools to feel successful at their position, or have come out (or have been forced to come out) and don't like the game. Oftentimes they will shut down as a defense mechanism for their self - esteem (IMO). If they are struggling but are not a distraction or insubordinate, you need to talk to them and see if it is a skill set issue or a motivation issue. If they are a distraction and insubordinate, discuss how to handle the situation with your fellow coaches and come up with a staff backed decision.
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Post by CS on Aug 30, 2012 9:47:15 GMT -6
No he isn't a resource student guys. At my school we deal with a lot of resource kids and I can handle and break down things to make it simple for them. As far as the playing time goes brophy I'm the dc and he does not play for me however our hc/oc has him a starting qb and that is what I coach on the offensive side. He is one of those kids who never does anything wrong so you can't make him better and no matter how I punish him in Indy he gets the starting nod from hc. Oh and forgot he won't listen to hc either! I have no idea why he keeps this kid around but it's not my team and my name doesn't go in the paper so I have respected his decision. I'm just flat out tired of that kid!!! Also we only have 20 at a small school in the delta
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Post by carookie on Aug 30, 2012 10:03:02 GMT -6
..... and no matter how I punish him in Indy he gets the starting nod from hc..... Maybe don't punish him, maybe just talk and work with him. I'm not saying kiss the kid's rear end but sometimes punishing someone to do what you want isn't the answer. Who knows, maybe your relationship with this kid is too far gone, but the proof is in the pudding, and if the kid is making mistakes on the field he'll know it (even if he acts as if its not him).
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2012 10:12:42 GMT -6
Sounds like more of a staff situation than anything else. If you are responsible for quarterbacks and he's not the guy you want on the field, then you need to have a discussion with the head coach. I understand he can pull the HC card and start a guy you dont want, but you need to make sure he understands your side. I'd talk with the head coach and let him know what is going on and discuss a plan of action. I had to do the same thing just last week. DC overruled me and had to start our stud FS that plays half speed. Sat down and talked to him and let him know that i felt like we had a better chance of winning with a lesser athlete that plays full speed. Stud FS is riding pine on D this week. Has provided him with a bit of a wakeup call i think too.
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Post by CS on Aug 30, 2012 10:16:57 GMT -6
..... and no matter how I punish him in Indy he gets the starting nod from hc..... Maybe don't punish him, maybe just talk and work with him. I'm not saying kiss the kid's rear end but sometimes punishing someone to do what you want isn't the answer. Who knows, maybe your relationship with this kid is too far gone, but the proof is in the pudding, and if the kid is making mistakes on the field he'll know it (even if he acts as if its not him). Tried it. Was working for a short bit but went back to being his old self. Trust me I have tried everything short of kissing his butt or paying him off. In my opinion this kid is to far gone. He is a senior so I don't have the time to work with him on the attitude thing I'm just asking if anybody just stopped coaching a kid like this! Nobody has answered that yet! Give me an opinion or an example but I'm just to that point with this kid where I'm tired of trying. Would like to focus on the rest of the team who are good kids who at least try.
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Post by fantom on Aug 30, 2012 10:21:42 GMT -6
Maybe don't punish him, maybe just talk and work with him. I'm not saying kiss the kid's rear end but sometimes punishing someone to do what you want isn't the answer. Who knows, maybe your relationship with this kid is too far gone, but the proof is in the pudding, and if the kid is making mistakes on the field he'll know it (even if he acts as if its not him). Tried it. Was working for a short bit but went back to being his old self. Trust me I have tried everything short of kissing his butt or paying him off. In my opinion this kid is to far gone. He is a senior so I don't have the time to work with him on the attitude thing I'm just asking if anybody just stopped coaching a kid like this! Nobody has answered that yet! Give me an opinion or an example but I'm just to that point with this kid where I'm tired of trying. Would like to focus on the rest of the team who are good kids who at least try. It doesn't sound like your HC will back you so I don't see how you could just refuse to coach him.
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Post by newhope on Aug 30, 2012 10:39:36 GMT -6
At this point, you keep coaching. No, he's not going to get it and yes, it's going to really bother you---but you have no choice. It's your job. It's a bad situation where the HC is going to let him get away with it and still play him. You're just caught in the middle. You've got to coach him, and it is also your duty to let the HC know the problems you are having with him---every time you have a problem with him until either the HC tells you he doesn't want to hear it anymore or until he listens to you and does something about it. But if he's going to play, you have to do your best to get him ready to play.
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Post by CS on Aug 30, 2012 11:12:52 GMT -6
Yeah I pulled this kid aside and thought the problem was over because I felt like we found a middle ground and he realized that I was only trying to make him better. But there seems to be no getting through to him. I do complain to the hc and we have conversations about how bad he is. Hc is a certain female body part and is afraid we won't have a qb to replace him. My take on it is he isn't gonna do what he says anyway so what's the difference if a kid messes up a few times. Can't get that through to him
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Post by crock1615 on Aug 30, 2012 12:17:33 GMT -6
Last year i was DC at a mid size 4A school. Had one player who was a very gifted athlete. Played RB and LB. at running back he was a playmaker and at LB he had a nose for the ball and made big hits. But he had a tendency to do his own thing and freelance. He didn't start on either side of the ball because of this. he was a sub, and when he came in he made plays, but several times he would cost us by doing his own thing and not playing his assignment on defense.
Midway thru the season, I told the HC that i didn't want him anymore and he could be offense only. Eventually the other players caught on that his behavior was hurting the team and they didn't want him out there either, regardless of his big play potential.
But i just kept coaching the kids that wanted to be coached
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Post by carookie on Aug 30, 2012 12:58:24 GMT -6
As long as the kid is out there you can't stop coaching him. Now that doesn't mean you coach him the same way as you do others (but that goes for everyone); still it is your responsibility to continue to put forth the effort. I know it sucks but its part of the job.
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Post by CS on Aug 30, 2012 15:30:51 GMT -6
As long as the kid is out there you can't stop coaching him. Now that doesn't mean you coach him the same way as you do others (but that goes for everyone); still it is your responsibility to continue to put forth the effort. I know it sucks but its part of the job. I'm not arguing for the sake of arguing but how exactly is that our job. Our job to me is to make athletes the best we can and turn out some fine young men into society. This kid is not going to be either. I want to cut him loose
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Post by scuba16 on Aug 30, 2012 17:02:18 GMT -6
Can his ass and move on
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Post by carookie on Aug 30, 2012 17:54:31 GMT -6
As long as the kid is out there you can't stop coaching him. Now that doesn't mean you coach him the same way as you do others (but that goes for everyone); still it is your responsibility to continue to put forth the effort. I know it sucks but its part of the job. I'm not arguing for the sake of arguing but how exactly is that our job. Our job to me is to make athletes the best we can and turn out some fine young men into society. This kid is not going to be either. I want to cut him loose I don't think of it as arguing for arguments sake, and if you think cutting him is best I would do so. But it sounds as if the HC wants him; and if that is so cutting him is not an option. Its your job in several ways- not every kid is going to be receptive or a great athlete (obviously this kid is at the far end of the spectrum) but still he is part of the team and you have to coach all kids the same you have to teach all students (and yes I know football isn't compulsory but as long as he is on the team that argument is moot). It is also your job to support and assist the head coach. That doesn't mean personally agreeing with everything he does, but once the decision is made to keep the kid then it is your job to coach the kid. Now if you want to come to him before and after each practice and tell him that you think the kid needs to be cut then by all means. But for the three hours a day you have the kid you need to coach him.
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Post by msirishman on Aug 31, 2012 9:22:13 GMT -6
I'm not arguing for the sake of arguing but how exactly is that our job. Our job to me is to make athletes the best we can and turn out some fine young men into society. This kid is not going to be either. I want to cut him loose I agree. Students/players/etc - we can only take them where they want to go. I'll be dammed if I drag a dead horse around churchhill downs. I use this analogy all the time: If you know how to swim but you are drowning in a pool simply because you refuse to swim, then I am perfectly happy to stand on the side of pool and watch you drown. I don't see how it's any different than a kid in class who won't do anything. Chit son, don't do it, I don't care, it's your life, I've already graduated. Just don't phuk up my change at McDonalds or I'm going to be an ahole about it. Bingo!!
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Post by CS on Aug 31, 2012 9:35:54 GMT -6
I agree. Students/players/etc - we can only take them where they want to go. I'll be dammed if I drag a dead horse around churchhill downs.
I use this analogy all the time: If you know how to swim but you are drowning in a pool simply because you refuse to swim, then I am perfectly happy to stand on the side of pool and watch you drown.
I don't see how it's any different than a kid in class who won't do anything. Chit son, don't do it, I don't care, it's your life, I've already graduated. Just don't phuk up my change at McDonalds or I'm going to be an ahole about it.[/quote]
Haha! Classic!
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Post by blb on Aug 31, 2012 9:47:02 GMT -6
dc has the knack for getting to the nitty-gritty and expressing it in a colorful, memorable manner.
When he writes his book I'll be first in line.
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Post by newhope on Aug 31, 2012 13:20:01 GMT -6
The point is you aren't the HC. The HC says he's going to play. Therefore, your job IS to coach him. Now, I'd never have the guy playing if I was the HC, but I can also tell you this--if as the HC I told you he was going to play and to coach him up and you didn't, then you wouldn't have to worry any longer about what your job was, because you wouldn't have one.
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Post by coachd5085 on Aug 31, 2012 13:56:50 GMT -6
The point is you aren't the HC. The HC says he's going to play. Therefore, your job IS to coach him. Now, I'd never have the guy playing if I was the HC, but I can also tell you this--if as the HC I told you he was going to play and to coach him up and you didn't, then you wouldn't have to worry any longer about what your job was, because you wouldn't have one. coachsmyly I actually think this is a situation where it depends on YOUR situation. Me, in my current place in life, No way, No how do I let this situation weigh on me. I would have no qualms giving the header an Ultimatum. Me or the Kid. And I would have zero problems if he said "I take the kid". That would result in a handshake, and a very sincere "good luck on the upcoming season coach. I wish you guys nothing but the best". But I don't NEED to be a part of that particular team. Or perhaps a variation.."coach, I won't coach him in individual...if you want him as YOUR QB, then YOU coach him on that part, and will coach the other players.." Again though, that is just me. I am in a place in life where I can live without football (currently do in fact). I am also in a situation where coaching doesn't affect my teaching position. Perhaps you CAN point to the fact that while it may benefit the club in the short term (best QB right now) he might be HURTING the team in the long term, as the other QB's see the actions and responses and lack of consequences. This could slow their development.
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Post by CS on Sept 1, 2012 9:48:13 GMT -6
Pride the hc doesn't like him either. I ask him why he keeps the kid around and I get an "I don't know" and it's pretty much over.and 5085. Unfortunately in my state I'm contracted by the school to teach and coach so I really can't quit and the hc can't fire me. Plus I would like to be hired by another school next season and I don't see me getting to many references if I did that
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Post by Chris Clement on Sept 1, 2012 18:40:50 GMT -6
I can't stand the "I don't know" answer. It's ridiculous. You're a grown freaking man and this is a recurring issue, how does it happen regularly and yet you never think about what you're doing? The sheer probability is astonishing, that by pure happenstance the same result occurs every time, without any thought put into it by you?
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Post by CS on Sept 3, 2012 9:55:11 GMT -6
I can't stand the "I don't know" answer. It's ridiculous. You're a grown freaking man and this is a recurring issue, how does it happen regularly and yet you never think about what you're doing? The sheer probability is astonishing, that by pure happenstance the same result occurs every time, without any thought put into it by you? And that is why this program will never be turned around
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Post by CS on Sept 4, 2012 9:06:08 GMT -6
Had this issue with one of our CB's on friday night. On the field he was dismissive to his position coach and gave him a hand flip. I did not know that until after the game. We get into films on saturday, his position coach is trying to tell him something and he's talking back. So I say something to him but he doesn't talk back to me. We go a few more plays and he's being lazy, no effort, no inside leverave even when the WR is literally 1 yd off the sideline. So I say something to him again and he comes back with some excuse. I say "aren't you the same guy who got replaced during a 7 on 7 by a freshman because you wouldn't jump the slant route?" He said "yea" I said "and is that freshman still starting at CB?" He said "yea" I said "and apparently you think when Marcus gets his hamstring healed up I am going to bench that freshman CB and keep you on the field with that kind of effort?" He said "whatever." I said "Yep that's right - WHATEVER. You can leave now." He just sat there, I said "Seriously - GET OUT!! or the rest of us will run until you leave." and he left. F that kid. Jesus only saved 11 out 12 and I am tired of dealing with his b!tch@$$ attitude. Consiquently - if you've read my other post in a different thread, this is the kid, who's mother I told to quit breast feeding him. You and me would get along. Just sayin
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Post by kyle on Sept 4, 2012 10:15:14 GMT -6
I've found that typically addressing issues with down ups is a great way to go about things. And I'm sure this kid does things that deserves down ups. Attitude is a good reason. Tell them once what you expect from them, and if they don't do it, then up down them. It's great because it gets rid of all their energy. Don't let them do poor down ups either. Poor down ups are reasons for more down ups.
Also, punishment needs to fit the crime. The kids don't need to do 100 down ups. It's just 5-10 good ones.
I don't even yell anymore. Why waste my energy?
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Post by CS on Sept 4, 2012 10:36:55 GMT -6
I've found that typically addressing issues with down ups is a great way to go about things. And I'm sure this kid does things that deserves down ups. Attitude is a good reason. Tell them once what you expect from them, and if they don't do it, then up down them. It's great because it gets rid of all their energy. Don't let them do poor down ups either. Poor down ups are reasons for more down ups. Also, punishment needs to fit the crime. The kids don't need to do 100 down ups. It's just 5-10 good ones. I don't even yell anymore. Why waste my energy? Already tried that. Kid knows the hc won't get rid of or bench him so he really doesn't give a $h/t what you do to him. He will go and do them but it will be so slow that it will just be getting him out of my hair for a bit rather than teaching him anything. Also I have to get him ready for the game best I can because he will be starting Friday no matter how big of an whole he is
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Post by kyle on Sept 4, 2012 10:52:14 GMT -6
I've found that typically addressing issues with down ups is a great way to go about things. And I'm sure this kid does things that deserves down ups. Attitude is a good reason. Tell them once what you expect from them, and if they don't do it, then up down them. It's great because it gets rid of all their energy. Don't let them do poor down ups either. Poor down ups are reasons for more down ups. Also, punishment needs to fit the crime. The kids don't need to do 100 down ups. It's just 5-10 good ones. I don't even yell anymore. Why waste my energy? Already tried that. Kid knows the hc won't get rid of or bench him so he really doesn't give a $h/t what you do to him. He will go and do them but it will be so slow that it will just be getting him out of my hair for a bit rather than teaching him anything. Also I have to get him ready for the game best I can because he will be starting Friday no matter how big of an whole he is I use the whole team or whatever unit I have, not just one kid. Everyone has to do perfect down ups or we don't stop.
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