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Post by jpdaley25 on Apr 8, 2009 10:45:35 GMT -6
"There will come a time when you think everything is finished; That will be the beginning." -Louis L'Amour
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Post by snohomishgp20 on Apr 8, 2009 22:00:27 GMT -6
midline Q, I wish you the best, and keep us updated on your coaching situation. It will all work out for you, I am confident of that!
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cujo
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Post by cujo on Apr 10, 2009 5:28:21 GMT -6
Still looking, thank you for all the comments
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Post by dacoachmo on Apr 10, 2009 5:47:41 GMT -6
Send your resume to all the area coaches...it is amazing how close our fraternity is and how quickly coaches are eager to help another coach!!!
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Post by gunandrun on Apr 20, 2009 15:51:46 GMT -6
Lost my HC job last year. If I was to write a year ago I would not be able to put into words how upset I was. Started the program from scratch with all kids of promises extra assistants, youth programs, sleds etc. I was the twelve hour a day guy in the off-season. On top of that, If I was not at school trying to help the kids, my mind was. Things started great and ended up bad as I tried everything I could imagine, still the kids did not respond. I was brought in on that friday afternoon and the conversation took less than five minutes. Just think all you get after several years is the patented "we are going in a different direction next year". I had to come to grips as I may be teaching at this school for another 20+ years.
What did I do 1. I called my supporters and thanked them. Let the kids know I would not be back. (the hardest part at the time) 2. I reflected, Coach Slack was right on, What did I or did I not do successfully? How should I have done things. 3. I cleansed myself of thoughts of being the coach of the team. (hardest thing to do) In addition, my wife cleared all the clothing out. Surprising how much gear you have that has the team logo. She also stocked my dresser with replacement gear. 4. I comforted my wife- believe me she was devastated. I also hid all the firearms (she is irish:). 5. I kept developing as a professional, reading, going to clinics etc. 6. Put my faith in a higher power and the philosophies that everything happens for a reason and when one door closes another door opens.
Flash forward to now.
1. Wife and I discussed it, I will not seek another head job until our child graduates HS. 2. Family understands the importance of football in my life. Found a place to assist a great staff and wonderful bunch of young men. 3. Committed myself to improving myself physically, mentally, and spiritually. Lost 15lbs so far, reading a book a week (no tv when there is not football on- ok spring games do get me back in my chair), getting the most out of my relationship with JC. 4. Active as professional in my career serving in a state wide organization. 5. Still teaching all kids, boys and girls alike, like they were my son or daughter. I always wish them the best in school and activities. 6. I have made more friends in my community and with my fellow coaches than I did in the previous six years.
My advice is keep your head up. You were hired because you possess great qualities that can be used in leading young men. Those qualities did not get thrown out once you were let go. Let those qualities shine and enhance those you deem in need of work.
God bless you and yours.
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Post by fbdoc on Apr 20, 2009 18:17:42 GMT -6
I've already shared my "we want to go in another direction" story. Long story short, I was offered the AD job at another school and it has been fantastic! I don't think I've been happier or in a better situation. gunandrun and midline - thanks for sharing your stories. If you move to Florida, look me up - I'm always looking for guys who can coach!
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Post by devilsadvocate on Apr 23, 2009 20:12:02 GMT -6
This December marked the third year since I got canned. Can't say it was unexpected. We won 7 games in three seasons. If you don't win, they can pretty well fire you for not parting your hair on the correct side. The reason given me was that the relationship between me and the middle school program was not what it should be. So, when I responded with inquiry as to what my first year principal (who happened to be the fourth in my time at the school) thought should be a good relationship, he responded with, "I don't know. What exactly is your relationship with the middle school?" That one made me scratch my head. gunandrun and I share similar approaches. I have since stepped back, re-evaluated many things in and out of the locker room, from program management to scheme to whatever I had time to think back on. When you get shown the door, you gain lots of clarity. I also have tried, very unsuccessfully at times, not to hate the gentleman who fired me. I pray often for that strength, as it is quite clear that I still harbor bad feelings. That sin is a formidable struggle. Professionally, I have landed on my feet. OC at a high profile program, and have the pieces in place to contend for a state title in the next two years. Never would have been possible at my previous school. My kids love their new school setting. Many more educational opportunities and challenges. And most importantly, Momma got closer to her family. When Momma's happy,.... ;D Keep your heads up, guys. There is a plan for all that happens.
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Post by touchdowng on Apr 23, 2009 20:31:15 GMT -6
I was fired from my "dream job." I butted heads with our admin. They were sneaky and I knew it and they knew I knew it. This was about a three year process and the only thing I regret is that I didn't turn their butts into the state for misappropriation of funds.
About a month before I was fired from my FB job I mentioned to many of the other HC's in our building that I would probably get fired for the position I was about to take but that it would be a good firing because it will bring notice to our school from district admin and the unions. With any luck it will cost some other jobs.
I was fired on a Wed in February. On Thursday, our teaching staff assembled and took a vote of no confidence on our administration.
It's a long story and there are many versions of it around this community but there is only one truth. I stuck to my guns and there wasn't a night I lost sleep during the entire process and I have no regrets.
I moved on and am still treated with a great deal of respect around the community where I was fired.
My entire staff resigned the day after I was released and most of them came with me to my new job.
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